1)They blame you for things that aren’t your fault.
For example, when the dishwasher breaks, they immediately attack and assume you’re to blame, saying, “What did you do to the dishwasher?” This is not the kind of behavior you would expect in a healthy relationship.
2)They talk to you like you are a child.
They make condescending and/or punitive comments to you such as, “I want you to think more about…” or “You need to use better judgment about…” instead of addressing you as an equal. Every partnership should be 50/50; nobody wants to be talked down to.
3)They use an intimidating tone to others when asking for help.
Let’s say you’re at a restaurant with your spouse where their food is served too cold. In an attacking tone, they demand that the waiter take back their food as if the waiter instructed the chef to ruin their meal.
They respond to others as if everyone is out to get them. Again, this is certainly not healthy behavior.
4)They criticize your character and possibly even your children.
When expressing their frustrations, they don’t say, “I’m so frustrated!” Instead, they exclaim, “What the hell is wrong with you? Can’t you do anything right?”
5)They suffer from “lawyer syndrome.”
What is “lawyer syndrome” anyway? It’s when someone gains an overly inflated sense of their own ego or believes that they can do no wrong.
Many bullies have a tendency to fall into the narcissist category and believe they’re smarter, more knowledgeable, or just plain better than everyone else at making decisions.
They will often suggest that you don’t know what you’re talking about or shoot down your ideas as dumb or invalid. Or, they may even make you feel like you are incapable of making a decision on your own at all.
You are deserving of the best kind of love and relationship. Don’t let a bully derail that or convince you otherwise.
