ARE U DESTROYING YOUR RELATIONSHIP PASSIVELY?

You’re a scorekeeper

Contending can swiftly turn a relationship into an unsightly fight of one-upmanship. How can you potentially be a winner if it is at the expense of making the individual you allegedly love a loser? Strong relationships are about sacrifice and caring, not power and control. Competitiveness can drain the delight, self-confidence, and efficiency of any relationship.

You’re a fault-seeker

There is absolutely nothing wrong with positive criticism if it is created to enhance the relationship. However, if done too often, it can lead to consistent faultfinding — in which you spend more time focusing on the defects and blemishes rather than the value of your partner. When you appreciate the good things your partner has to offer, you will get more of the good things your partner has to offer.

 Your way is the only way

“If you have actually constantly got to be right, then you prepare to eliminate till completion. No truer words were ever spoken and you will certainly battle to the end — completion of your relationship. You cannot be self-righteous or consumed with control and do exactly what’s finest for the relationship at the exact same time.

You are a character assassinator

Instead of fault-finding or appealing in character assassination, these hazardous partners attempt to prevent their partner by continuously doing that which they reject they are doing — in such an indirect method about leaving responsibility if they are faced. A passive-aggressive individual is as much of a self-important controller as the most aggressive, in-your-face individual you might think of — just they do it insidiously and underhandedly.

You will not forgive

When you decide to bear anger at your partner, you trap yourself in discomfort and misery — and the unfavorable energy can crowd every other feeling out of your heart. If you indulge in animosity and decline to forgive and proceed, you will certainly destroy your very own life and your relationship. You cannot alter the past however you can handle the resulting sensations and harm by being genuinely flexible.

You are the bottomless pit

Are you so needy that you continuously weaken your possibilities of success? Can you never ever get enough fulfillment, love, interest, or gratitude? Your partner will certainly be annoyed by never ever appearing able to “fill you up.” All of us desire peace of mind, however a pressing craving for it never ever provides your partner any rest. Free yourself from the internalized sense of insufficiency, and discover other methods to feel your self-respect and value.