MUST DO 5 THINGS FOR OLDER WOMEN TO LOOK AND FEEL ATTRACTIVE
When you hear the word "attractive," do you think of physical beauty?
Live with compassion:
We live in a task-focused, driven society. It’s not uncommon for ambitious people to work 12 hours a day, every day. Stars, especially athletic stars, push their bodies beyond reasonable limits, all to be “the best.”
People wear themselves out and waste precious years pushing themselves to be better, smarter, and wealthier. Athletes are considered “old” at 35 (and models even earlier than that).
Wear and tear from a demanding world eventually affects us all. But you can reach for your personal best without whipping yourself.
As you age, it’s essential to work out a balance between what you want to do and what you can do. In her case, the balance was, “don’t ever give up your dream” but give yourself a few tries to get there. As you age, your capacities change. There are still many dreams that you can realize if you’re willing to strive for them. But sometimes your dreams change (and that’s okay). Maybe now, a life of quiet joy and learning feels more important than conquering that mountaintop. Compassion means letting yourself admit what you really want and then feel unapologetically happy and proud as you strive to attain it.
Watch your language:
The fact is, women with life experience are not “over the hill.” Our youth-obsessed culture ignores women as they age to their own peril. U’re the ones who remember history, so as not to repeat it. U’re also the ones who have a wide overview of what life is all about. Honor your life experience and the wisdom you’ve acquired. These are not your liability, they are your beautiful gifts.
Love your body completely:
As you age, it’s tempting to berate whichever body part has “betrayed” you by starting to sag, wrinkle, or give out.
Having your eyesight now become weak, your waistline steadily expands, or even losing some of your hearing feels like an insult. But science tells us that focusing on those losses and blaming your body actually may make things worse. And here we come back to compassion.
Gravity will have her way with us all. We live our lives in constant adjustment with the gravity that also keeps us from flying off into outer space. The constant stress wears us out.
But when you’re compassionate with your physical aging and do what you can to keep your body “tuned up,” these physical changes slip into the background. The more you focus on what interests you and what your body can do, the more fun you’ll have, the more life you’ll enjoy, and the more attractive you’ll seem with all of that vitality.Your yoga guru is your friend, your nutritionist is your friend, and your acupuncturist is your friend. Whatever you can do to train your core strength and enhance your balance is decidedly worth doing. Your amazing body deserves your full attention.
They remain curious and cultivate a “growth mindset.”
Sure, you know a lot, but it’s still only a drop in the ocean of what there is to learn. As we age, our brains become less suited to acquire new knowledge — like a foreign language (although that’s not impossible!). But our brains are incredibly well-tuned to make connections. Einstein said, “The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.”
Attractive women are curious about life. They develop a growth mindset and continually expand their horizons. So long as we modulate our ambitions with compassion and patience, there’s nothing like addressing some new thing with the attitude, “I think I can…”
They maintain a fulfilling sex life:
Love your body and learn what feels pleasurable and most exciting for you. Get curious and open your mind to experiencing so much more than simply reaching orgasm. Great sex includes actually enjoying the frustration before the climax. Having a fulfilling sex life begins with your self-image and the things you say to yourself about yourself.
